Recently I have struggled with knowing who Hope is. Part of this is because I am going through a divorce, which, as many people know is as large of a personal identity transformer as marriage is and was; part of that is because I moved home to my childhood bedroom, and then out in to my own apartment since college; and part of that is because I started a new job with new coworkers and a new working dynamic that I have yet to experience before.
All of these things come with new rules and expectations of myself that are given to me by myself, my family, society, whomever – you name it. All new identifier tags come with a set of behaviors to go along with them.
Naturally, this does not mean that I need to adhere to all of those – but some of them come from a space of caring and goodness, and those are the ones that deserve a second look.
With my divorce I promised myself a couple of things.
- I would travel internationally every 3 months.
- I would put myself and my self care first, and meet the needs of my girls next, I would not be responsible for the health and wellbeing of another human on a regular, reliable basis.*
- I would have a regular schedule of things that make me feel good; that means learning a new skill or two, and staying fit as I define that.
The next chapter of this blogs journey is to follow me as I maneuver this new world I have found myself in, and teach you the rules and work arounds as I learn them.
Welcome, and enjoy the ride of reinvention.