Reinvention

Recently I have struggled with knowing who Hope is. Part of this is because I am going through a divorce, which, as many people know is as large of a personal identity transformer as marriage is and was; part of that is because I moved home to my childhood bedroom, and then out in to my own apartment since college; and part of that is because I started a new job with new coworkers and a new working dynamic that I have yet to experience before.

All of these things come with new rules and expectations of myself that are given to me by myself, my family, society, whomever – you name it. All new identifier tags come with a set of behaviors to go along with them.

Naturally, this does not mean that I need to adhere to all of those – but some of them come from a space of caring and goodness, and those are the ones that deserve a second look.

With my divorce I promised myself a couple of things.

  1. I would travel internationally every 3 months.
  2. I would put myself and my self care first, and meet the needs of my girls next, I would not be responsible for the health and wellbeing of another human on a regular, reliable basis.*
  3. I would have a regular schedule of things that make me feel good; that means learning a new skill or two, and staying fit as I define that.

 

The next chapter of this blogs journey is to follow me as I maneuver this new world I have found myself in, and teach you the rules and work arounds as I learn them.

 

Welcome, and enjoy the ride of reinvention.

4 Reasons Why I Don’t Raw Feed

 

Feeding dogs raw is so trendy right now. And I will admit, I have seen the results of raw fed shine during my time working in the veterinary industry. However, when I weigh the cost-benefit of exclusively raw feeding, it just doesn’t make sense for our family.

 

It’s Time Consuming

I rarely want to cook for myself. My dogs are my children, so I do pamper them more than some people, but on days when I am scooping peanut butter onto a waffle that came out of my freezer to feed myself, you can bet that I won’t be preparing anything for my little babes. That said, when I meal prep, or have some extra energy at the end of the day, they always reap those benefits.

It’s Expensive

I recently left my job and this has left my family a little strapped for cash. We’re not poor, but we are frugal. We cut costs where we can and live well below our means when I am earning money to ease the financial impact when I am not. If by some miracle I have a week where I am inspired to feed raw, I carefully incorporate it into their routine, and they LOVE it, but it is definitely a splurge.

It’s Rude

Have you ever been asked to do something for someone and candidly agree on the assumption that it will be no big deal? Yeah, me too. Well guess what, that something that could have just been, “snuggle my puppies for me, make sure they have water, and give them a couple scoops of food before you leave,” just turned into a much more involved chore. That’s right, say good-bye to guilt-free vacations.

It’s Not That Much Better For Your Dog

This is perhaps the most important factor that I consider in all this, because if it were really as night-and-day as some people claim, I would be on the bandwagon. The fact is, the research just isn’t out there to outright support people’s claims for the benefits of raw feeding. Remember earlier when I said I could see the difference? Well, usually folks who raw feed are the types who naturally put more time into caring for their pups, and it is clear that those people have healthier dogs! That’s what I’m seeing.

 

Brush your dog’s teeth, be intentional about the intensity and kinds of exercise you’re providing for your dog depending on his or her specific breed, look into the kibble you’re feeding, and be conscientious. Your dog will be healthier, and your veterinary technician will be able to see the difference all the same!

 

The Fox

Who is the Fox?

Well, she’s me! I have always had a hard time with describing who I am. I feel like there are so many pieces that come together to create who I am that get complicated by intricate stories that I just never really feel like there’s just one way of looking at who I am.

I had a pretty complicated childhood, and maybe there will be a time where I share stories with you, but an introduction doesn’t seem the most appropriate place to do that. Regardless, it’s just one piece in the puzzle that is me. I grew up in the Seattle area, and that’s not to say that I grew up around Seattle, I mean I literally grew up in the areas in and around the city. I spent a lot of time bouncing from house to house. Eventually my life settled out in Tacoma, WA, where I went to high school and college and met my now-husband. Now, I’m the mom of two rescues, Maize and Diogi, living in Savannah, GA.

Why the fox?

Well, it all begins with my father. He believed himself to be spiritual, having grown up in a pretty traditionally Jewish home.  However, as a man who chose to be homeless, he was clearly lost a little searching for meaning in his life. He found a little in the culture of the Tlingit people, and spent a lot of time with them in his early adulthood. When I was born, he took me to a friend, who told him that I had the spirit of a fox, and that’s where it all began.

Now, this was pretty bogus to me for a long time, I admit that. I identified where I could during my teenage years, while I too was searching for meaning in my life and grasping at straws for a meaningful relationship with my father.

I saw myself in that role. I knew myself to be curious, intellectually, but also a little nosy in life too. I knew I spent a lot of time alone. I evaded the truth, preferring to tell people what I knew they wanted to hear, having come from a background where that was a survival method. You could call it cunning, as I also saw through it when people tried to lie to me.  As I have grown I see the relation more and more, and have grown to embrace this totem and find new ways it fits with my life.

TL;DR: it’s been with me my whole life, and I’ve learned to appreciate it.